Mr. A will soon be turning the big 3-0 and in honour of that I’ve been thinking of organizing him a surprise birthday gathering. We’ll be in Gozo at that time since his birthday will be around Easter time this year, so I was thinking of organizing it at our flat, and should the weather be stable by then, we can have it outside on the terrace.
The thing is that apart from organizing my wedding, I’ve never thrown a party before, let alone a surprise one. And then for A, whom I have never tried nor know if I’m capable of keeping a secret from. So while the venue is settled as is the cake – there will definitely be cake without or without a party, I have stopped there for the time being.
I need to decide on the number (around 20 I’m thinking), the food (I can order food nibbles from a local caterer) and the method of invitation. While I’ll be providing everything, I”m still at a dilemma with regards drinks. I will have some basics at hand such as wine and whiskey (A’s dad has hordes of the stuff thanks to his profession), but I was thinking of whether I should invite people only or invite them to a bottle-party sort of thing. I”m not interested in A receiving any gifts because the reason I’d like to organize this for him is just to meet up with his friends whom we haven’t been able to meet all at once since the wedding (apart from drinks at Christmas time). But at the same time I’m wondering whether it’s rude to invite people to a bottle-party birthday party. If I decide on the latter I want to make it clear that no gifts are to be exchanged. I just want a reason for meeting up and A’s birthday seems the perfect excuse!
So how do I go about that without sounding or seeming rude?
Then of course there is the hard task of keeping it a secret from A while I set the place up. I will definitely need A’s sister’s help at that one. That, of course, can wait for the time being.
I need to decide with regards the invitations!!